How To Get Your Life When You Feel Lost

I. Am. Still. Trying. To. Figure. It. Out.

Everyday is a challenge.

No, seriously.

A multitude of things has happened during my time away from my blogging safe haven. I am finishing up the final touches of redecorating my room. My heart was broken. I booked a vacation rental to Costa Rica for my 23rd birthday. My heart was broken again lol. I lost my voice. I stopped writing. I began to feel very uninspired. I re-found my voice. I wrote. A lot. I realigned my goals. My laptop broke – which ultimately stopped me from blogging to you all about all the things that I’ve been dealing with. I got a new laptop. I started to revisit the world of dating -yass honey! I started my natural body butters. I’ve been learning and experimenting with new jewelry designs and finding ways to better myself and my craft. I tried being vegan for a week. I realized that I can only be vegan for a week and the pescatarian lifestyle is for me lol. I also realized that my working environment isn’t one that makes me happy. Realized that a part of the reason that it is so hard to steadily be happy and journey on towards peace is because I am surrounded by more negative things, people and places than I thought. I realized that I need to separate myself from those things now more than ever for the sake of my mental health, clarity and continuous path to self love. Oh, I need a new job guys. This is FACTS. I’m actively looking. However, I also realized that my true goal is to work for myself. Aside from that, I also had to remind myself that even during my times of doubt and frustration that I am an extraordinary, exceptional, brilliant and beautiful human being. So for the time I was away ….. I laughed, I cried, I learned … and realized that I am a confused, beautiful but … seriously a confused mess and I need to get my life.

Yes, you read that long ass paragraph only for it to end with “I’m confused”. I am lost in translation. Swept up in thoughts of how to make myself a better person than I was yesterday and caught between making those around me happy, helping out where I can and perfecting my craft and writing and re-finding my voice and just wanting some plain old love and attention!

If the title has compelled you to read this then you’re probably waiting for the part where I give a list of proper advice about how to get ya life! Listen, this is one time where I am just as lost as you. No proper advice over here just the beginning phases of life getting that I went through, lol.


During my time away I learned that the best way to start is to identify the problem. The source of stress. Source of sadness, hindrance, confusion etc. For me, that was identifying that I felt stuck, stagnant and complacent.

Then I stopped in my tracks and thought about why I felt this way. I’ve been out of college for over a year now. I don’t have a job in my field. I gave up a year of my life to help out someone who doesn’t seem to appreciate it. My business has been open for a year and I feel like it should be bigger than it is (while I do know these things take patience, time, hard work and dedication). A relationship that I thought was going to flourish in every sense of the word … failed. I couldn’t hold on to money. Felt like important people in my life weren’t matching the effort in which I give them (this still holds true but this is for another post lol). Oh man, and so much more.

I cried. Then I cried some more. I let out a rage of emotions.

Then I snapped out of it.

If you are a frequent reader of my blog, it won’t surprise you that I then made a list.

I made a list of goals. Then I prioritized them. Then I made a list of how to accomplish them. I made a list of my feelings. Then I made a list of how to work through each one.

I consoled myself. Because at 2 a.m when you feel like the world is crashing down on you and there’s no one you can call .. you’re all you have. And even when you feel like you deserve more than that or you don’t feel like that’s not enough … YOU HAVE TO BE ENOUGH FOR YOU. No matter what.

I revisited yoga and different breathing practices. Because during this time, I stopped and I could feel the tension rising within me.

I prayed. I’m not religious in any sense of the word but I believe in a higher power and I find solace in talking to that being.

I woke up one morning and I decided that I could no longer let my feelings of complacency stop me from being motivated and taking charge of my life.

I woke up that same morning grateful that I have been given another chance to make things right & to be my best self.

I applied to jobs. I read a little. Put on a face mask. Laughed. Facetimed bae and told myself that the following days would be different.

I spoke my goals into existence and I have been doing it since that morning.

Then I smiled because the only place to go from here is up. There will be a few more bad patches along the way -I know. There will be more times, when I’m feeling less grateful and less blissful, more discouraged, more frustrated but I know that I will overcome it. As I stated before, I am an extraordinary, beautiful, intelligent, confused mess and I realized if it wasn’t so, I wouldn’t be me and I couldn’t and wouldn’t have it any other way.

& CHECK .. there you have it, in the midst of all things confusing, ya girl has begun to get her life.

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Tips For Maintaining Healthy Natural Hair

With my last hair care post, I talked about a few ways that my naturalistas would be able to tell if their hair is healthy. With this new post I wanted to give some tips about ways to maintain that healthy hair. So here we go!

  • Cut out heat! If you do feel the need to use heat .. use it at a low setting. (Although I will say, you might as well just let it air dry if you are going to use a blow-dryer at a low setting). Try to use twist outs and braid outs as an alternative for curling your hair.
  • Snip those split ends. Some natural babies think that our natural hair doesn’t need to be clipped from time to time but trust me it is necessary. Clipping those ends every few weeks is essential in promoting hair growth and eliminating fly aways. Also, if you don’t clip those split ends it will only get worse over time – and that’s not cute.
  • Moisturize that scalp. Even if you don’t have time every day, just taking 10 minutes every few days to massage your scalp with some nutritious oils can help to promote growth. My favorite oils to use are coconut, tea tree, argon, and Jamaican black castor oil.
  • Don’t moisturize TOO much or excessively. Too much moisture results in product build up which leaves your hair feeling and looks dull and lifeless and is also unhealthy.
  • Deep Conditioning is your friend.
  • Coconut Oil is also your friend.
  • Okay okay, Jamaican black castor oil is coconut oils cousin aka also your friend.
  • Switch products every few months. Our hair can easily become accustomed to the products we use. This means that our hair will eventually stop reacting positively (or just won’t react at all) to some of our products. It’s nothing bad but it is something that can happen (just like with make up or other skin care items). Just switching out 1-2 products every few months will definitely do your hair some good.
  • Silk and Satin Caps/Bonnets and Satin Pillowcases for the win! I am prone to NOT following this but it is vital! Satin Pillowcases and/or Silk Caps are so important because they lock in that moisture that so necessary for hair growth. If you sleep with nothing on your head and you have cotton pillow cases -smh- the life is literally being sucked out of your hair and also making it more frizzy, dry and brittle.
  • Protective styling. One of the best ways to retain moisture in your hair and promote healthy hair is to protect your hair. There are so many ways to protect your hair from braids, wigs, weaves and much more .. the possibilities are endless and FUN!
  • More water and healthy eating with a side of exercise please. This is self explanatory. Just like I stated in my previous hair care post what you put into your body is what you get out of it!

So far this is all I can think of but trust me these tips will help save a life -the life of your hair! Lol ❤

xoxo Cielo.

Miss Universe Will Be Alright; Let’s Talk Sandra

Originally I was going to write this post about Steve Harvey and his controversial slip of the tongue .. on national TV! I was going to discuss how terrible I felt not only for him (I mean his error was crucial) but for the two beautiful ladies as well – who I could only imagine were embarrassed and terrified. I was going to continue on by saying that while this event was crazy (to say the least), the racial slurs coming from many Colombians (and others) were totally uncalled for.

This post was going to be about how continuously Latinos/Hispanics deny the FACT that part of (if not most) of their heritage (although they would rather not talk about it) stems from Africa. I mean Colombia it self is one of the top Latin American countries that have a prominent amount of black people; closely followed by Dominican Republic, Cuba, Puerto Rico and ALL of Central America.

Yet after the ACCIDENT (because that’s what it was) that happened just a few days ago .. many people went on a hate rampage that was quite disturbing.

I was going to talk about how America is not the only place where racism is starting to become OVERT again and definitely isn’t the only place that has to have these discussions when it comes to race and equality and understanding what roles these play.

It was also strange (but predictable) that social media sites continue to make jokes at the expense of all parties involved, the news reporters are questioning how will fans will go forward or how Steve Harvey may be at fault. Yet NO ONE is talking about this. No one has yet to talk about the racial slurs that are being thrown his way .. and well it’s SAD.

I then thought about how this seems to be getting more attention than when Mike Brown was shot. This is getting more attention then when Donald Trump said that Muslims shouldn’t be able to come into this “Land Of The Free” country. This is getting more press than Sandra Bland.

Sandra Bland

Or did we forget her name?

Sandra Bland

Sandra Bland

A black unarmed woman who died in police custody.

“Say Her Name” is what we chanted for months. The pain of her family, I felt running through my veins. As I saw her pictures, I truly felt that she was my sister. Yet, when they announced that NO ONE would be indicted for her murder ..

I heard nothing of it.

Because THIS is getting more press. No not the overt racism that Steve Harvey is facing (because then I would try to understand). No, but the fact that he announced the wrong winner IS WHAT IS GETTING MORE ATTENTION. Talks that he may be to blame, or how anyone will move forward is what is getting more attention.

I mean, talk about getting conveniently distracted.

Now I have no words, because yet again my people, my sister has been dealt an unfair hand. My sister did not receive the justice that she deserved. And I’m sick.

Sick and disturbed and becoming more disgusted with this country, with this world.

Honestly, I don’t know where to go with this post. I was going to write about one racist act but then I got smacked in the face with this and well …, idk.

Sandra Bland, I will continue to say your name. It seems like that is all that I can do.

#BlackExcellence #SayHerName #SandraBland #BlackLivesMatter #BlackWOMENLivesMatter

 

xoxo Cielo.

Positivity Everywhere 3 – ReBellerie

Name: Stephanie Semon
Age: 22
Name of your brand: ReBellerie

Tell us a little bit about yourself ?
I am from the Ivory Coast (Côte d’ Ivoire) in West Africa. I recently graduated college with a Bachelors and Masters in Psychology. While in college, I ran division 1 Track along with running a culture club.

So, what is ReBellerie?
ReBellerie is a handmade jewelry company that specializes in bracelets and necklaces.

What have you learned thus far in terms of running your own jewelry line?
I’ve learn that success takes time, patience, and determination. I’ve also realized that people will claim to support your brand but never actually take the necessary steps to show their support.

What is it that you hope to accomplish with your brand?
I hope to one day have my jewelry in a store like Urban Outfitters and to have celebrity clientele.

Do you plan to extend your jewelry line? Or maybe venture to clothing?
I do plan on venturing into clothing, but only basic apparel that highlight the brand . I also plan on expanding into other types of accessories.

How will you incorporate clothing into your jewelry line?
My potential clothing line will just feature the logo. I do not plan to get too involved in clothing design since it is not my specialty

Name one major highlight that you can say ReBellerie has given you thus far.
One major accomplishment was having my jewelry used in the Sabit NYC Fall/Winter collection fashion show in 2014.

What steps do you plan to take to make sure that your jewelry line continues to succeed?
I plan to keep using social media to reach more customers as well as vend at pop up shops where there will be a lot of media attention and stylists.

What is your favorite piece of jewelry that you have designed?
I have several favorites but my top two are Queen and Dopamine. (pictured below)
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Anything else that you’d like to add?
ReBellerie is pronounced (REH-BELL-REE). It is a combination of three words.
The beginning part, rebel refers to deviating from the norm and doing what makes you unique. I chose the French word for beautiful “belle” to highlight an individual’s aesthetics. The ending is simply a stylized form of the ending of the word jewel[ry].

Where can we find you?
ReBellerie’s website
Instagram
Twitter
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You can also email Stephanie at rebellerie@live.com