snow daze

Happy February beautiful souls! I’m a few (well, more than a few) days late for the start of the new month but that’s okay -better late than never, right?

Here in New York, we’re having a pretty intense snow day. Schools are cancelled, work (for some) is too and everyone is pretty much cuddled up, watching Netflix, eating ice cream and drinking wine.

If you’re like me and have approximately 0 baes then this day can/might be a drag for you. I allllllmost found myself feeling kind of down about that. Then (as always), I snapped out of it and decided to use this day as a day of self-care and self love. So I thought it would be pretty cool to give you guys a little insight on how my day has panned out thus far.


My day started pretty early (around 8:30 am). As per usual, I woke up and checked social media (a bad habit, that must be stopped in 2017). Then I did a quick 15 minute yoga session before heading to the supermarket (with my mommy) to gather some things for my day/night in.

On the way to the supermarket, I decided that I would do a little home cooking -since I haven’t reallllllyyyy chef’ed it up in a while. (Btw, I love Bitmojis)

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After searching through a few recipes, I decided on a Vegan Alfredo Pasta and Salmon with a caramelized sauce. I threwwww down, okay!

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After relaxing and enjoying my meal  (and netflix) … I took a nap. Lol. Butttttt, when I woke up, I hopped in the shower, washed my hair .. got real sneaky clean. I lathered myself in some soft body butter (shameless plug coming up .. now – which is available at SKYBRITNEI) and I turned on some good music, lit some candles and meditated whilst repeating positive self affirmations.

Whenever I’m taking the time to just BE, my music choice is always Bob Marley, Lauryn Hill and India Arie (among a few other artists). As for the candles, I have really been into soy candles lately and I have been loving the scent of Lavender & Vanilla (mixed). These two combined, made it extremely easy for me to relax and enjoy the tranquility and stillness of my afternoon.

Winding down, I indulged in a bit of journaling via my #ANote2Self Meditation Journal by Alex Elle. I also read a few pages of my WordsOF Gratitude book.  These are just some things that help me center myself and gain some peace of mind.

After centering my thoughts and emotions .. here comes a little bit of the ratchet. I heard via Twitter that VH1 was replaying old episodes of Flavor of Love! And I had to indulge for a little while -I couldn’t help it lol.

Sidenote| Can we discuss WHY Trey Songz is doing a dating show? Why? Why? & Why? Lol.

Anyways – then, I thought to myself ‘people are always inquiring about my self love methods’ and without me realizing today was all about self love and being okay with solitude soooo, I decided to write this for you guys. A nice drink sitting next to me and Bob playing in the background .. now is where I’ll sign off to enjoy the rest of my night.

Keep in mind that self love is more than just what I do. It is different for each person. The only thing that should be transitional in self love is that it IS INDEED self love and is built on positivity.

Be well guys and always practice self love -everyday!

xoxo,
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Btw – as I was fixing up my site, I realized that I have over 2,000 followers. I don’t know when that happened but I am extremely grateful to all of you. I appreciate it more than you  know! Besitosss mis amores!

How To Get Your Life When You Feel Lost

I. Am. Still. Trying. To. Figure. It. Out.

Everyday is a challenge.

No, seriously.

A multitude of things has happened during my time away from my blogging safe haven. I am finishing up the final touches of redecorating my room. My heart was broken. I booked a vacation rental to Costa Rica for my 23rd birthday. My heart was broken again lol. I lost my voice. I stopped writing. I began to feel very uninspired. I re-found my voice. I wrote. A lot. I realigned my goals. My laptop broke – which ultimately stopped me from blogging to you all about all the things that I’ve been dealing with. I got a new laptop. I started to revisit the world of dating -yass honey! I started my natural body butters. I’ve been learning and experimenting with new jewelry designs and finding ways to better myself and my craft. I tried being vegan for a week. I realized that I can only be vegan for a week and the pescatarian lifestyle is for me lol. I also realized that my working environment isn’t one that makes me happy. Realized that a part of the reason that it is so hard to steadily be happy and journey on towards peace is because I am surrounded by more negative things, people and places than I thought. I realized that I need to separate myself from those things now more than ever for the sake of my mental health, clarity and continuous path to self love. Oh, I need a new job guys. This is FACTS. I’m actively looking. However, I also realized that my true goal is to work for myself. Aside from that, I also had to remind myself that even during my times of doubt and frustration that I am an extraordinary, exceptional, brilliant and beautiful human being. So for the time I was away ….. I laughed, I cried, I learned … and realized that I am a confused, beautiful but … seriously a confused mess and I need to get my life.

Yes, you read that long ass paragraph only for it to end with “I’m confused”. I am lost in translation. Swept up in thoughts of how to make myself a better person than I was yesterday and caught between making those around me happy, helping out where I can and perfecting my craft and writing and re-finding my voice and just wanting some plain old love and attention!

If the title has compelled you to read this then you’re probably waiting for the part where I give a list of proper advice about how to get ya life! Listen, this is one time where I am just as lost as you. No proper advice over here just the beginning phases of life getting that I went through, lol.


During my time away I learned that the best way to start is to identify the problem. The source of stress. Source of sadness, hindrance, confusion etc. For me, that was identifying that I felt stuck, stagnant and complacent.

Then I stopped in my tracks and thought about why I felt this way. I’ve been out of college for over a year now. I don’t have a job in my field. I gave up a year of my life to help out someone who doesn’t seem to appreciate it. My business has been open for a year and I feel like it should be bigger than it is (while I do know these things take patience, time, hard work and dedication). A relationship that I thought was going to flourish in every sense of the word … failed. I couldn’t hold on to money. Felt like important people in my life weren’t matching the effort in which I give them (this still holds true but this is for another post lol). Oh man, and so much more.

I cried. Then I cried some more. I let out a rage of emotions.

Then I snapped out of it.

If you are a frequent reader of my blog, it won’t surprise you that I then made a list.

I made a list of goals. Then I prioritized them. Then I made a list of how to accomplish them. I made a list of my feelings. Then I made a list of how to work through each one.

I consoled myself. Because at 2 a.m when you feel like the world is crashing down on you and there’s no one you can call .. you’re all you have. And even when you feel like you deserve more than that or you don’t feel like that’s not enough … YOU HAVE TO BE ENOUGH FOR YOU. No matter what.

I revisited yoga and different breathing practices. Because during this time, I stopped and I could feel the tension rising within me.

I prayed. I’m not religious in any sense of the word but I believe in a higher power and I find solace in talking to that being.

I woke up one morning and I decided that I could no longer let my feelings of complacency stop me from being motivated and taking charge of my life.

I woke up that same morning grateful that I have been given another chance to make things right & to be my best self.

I applied to jobs. I read a little. Put on a face mask. Laughed. Facetimed bae and told myself that the following days would be different.

I spoke my goals into existence and I have been doing it since that morning.

Then I smiled because the only place to go from here is up. There will be a few more bad patches along the way -I know. There will be more times, when I’m feeling less grateful and less blissful, more discouraged, more frustrated but I know that I will overcome it. As I stated before, I am an extraordinary, beautiful, intelligent, confused mess and I realized if it wasn’t so, I wouldn’t be me and I couldn’t and wouldn’t have it any other way.

& CHECK .. there you have it, in the midst of all things confusing, ya girl has begun to get her life.

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The beauty of LOCS

Locs are much more than just a fashion statement. However, nowadays people wear dreads locs because it has become a trend. Yet, I’m almost certain that none of the people who wear them know what they symbolize or what they mean. You see, Locs carry a very spiritual meaning that has become nearly instinct in our society today.  To slightly elaborate, locs are a symbol of people that are on spiritual journey. Locs have been a part of the history of every spiritual system. From Christianity to Hinduism, locked hair has been been a symbol of a highly spiritual person who is trying to come closer to God(s).

What’s sad though is that while locs are becoming a fashion statement they are also extremely looked down upon. I know many people that have had difficulty finding jobs because they have locs. I know many people that have been grouped into a negative stereotypes because they have locs. People think “oh, they must smoke weed” “they’re dirty”.. or in Giuliana Rancic fashion “they must smell like patchouli oil”.

Woah! What’s my point in bringing this up?

Well as you may or may not know Zendaya wore a particular hair style to the Oscars this past Sunday:

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And well a little certain someone had this to say:

Not only was the comment Ms. Rancic made stereotypical but it was extremely offensive with underlying racial tones and I can see why Zendaya reacted as passionately has she did.

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What’s my take on this? I completely agree with Zendaya. More than half the people in my family have locs and none of them fit into the ‘stereotypical’ view that people have embedded into their minds. Furthermore, I plan on getting locs, can’t wait to start that process and I am 1000% sure that I do not smell like patchouli oil or weed.

Having locs doesn’t mean you’re less than ANYONE ELSE and it sucks that people of high stature (that children/others look up to) would even contribute to spreading such negativity around.

Woman (especially WOC) already have so many people telling us that we aren’t good enough so for a comment like that to be made for millions of people to see is just unacceptable.

And yea she apologized but like I’ve said before “sorry means nothing”. She shouldn’t have done it in the first place. There’s no way that she can say that she didn’t know those comments would be offensive. And if those comments were made to be taken as a joke than she has VERY poor taste as to what is considered funny. It’s just not cool.

This situation made me think of Kylie Jenner. Yea, she’s been in the news for a lot but I’ll focus on a hairstyle that she recently debuted.

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She got locs and the fashion community went wild. And when I say went wild … I am mean they loved it. She was making a “fashion statement”. It seems so odd to me that this white girl can walk around sporting locs but as soon as a black girl does it shes looked at as dirty. And this is where the problem lies .. not only in this (with hair) but with our society.

I will say this: one positive thing that came from this is seeing other WOC stick up and stand by Zendaya. That shows our unity, progression and willingness to continue to fight for others to see our worth. I can’t be mad at that.


“Black women’s body, hair, and style are being stolen by the same system that oppressed it in the first place, and then are told they are being “selfish” when they’d rather not share a culture that they were told they couldn’t have.

And they were told they were ghetto, imperfect, and ugly but when worn by the oppressor its “new”, “fashionable” and “appropriating”

xoxo Cielo .