Tag: motivate

snow daze

I’m frequently asked about some of my self love/self care methods. Today was the perfect day to indulge in just that. Taking advantage of Brooklyn’s snow day, I decided to cuddle up and tell you guys just how I catered to myself today.

Sky BritneiLeave a comment

Happy February beautiful souls! I’m a few (well, more than a few) days late for the start of the new month but that’s okay -better late than never, right?

Here in New York, we’re having a pretty intense snow day. Schools are cancelled, work (for some) is too and everyone is pretty much cuddled up, watching Netflix, eating ice cream and drinking wine.

If you’re like me and have approximately 0 baes then this day can/might be a drag for you. I allllllmost found myself feeling kind of down about that. Then (as always), I snapped out of it and decided to use this day as a day of self-care and self love. So I thought it would be pretty cool to give you guys a little insight on how my day has panned out thus far.

My day started pretty early (around 8:30 am). As per usual, I woke up and checked social media (a bad habit, that must be stopped in 2017). Then I did a quick 15 minute yoga session before heading to the supermarket (with my mommy) to gather some things for my day/night in.

On the way to the supermarket, I decided that I would do a little home cooking -since I haven’t reallllllyyyy chef’ed it up in a while. (Btw, I love Bitmojis)

img_5716

After searching through a few recipes, I decided on a Vegan Alfredo Pasta and Salmon with a caramelized sauce. I threwwww down, okay!

fullsizerender
img_5714Follow me on SNAPCHAT – YouScreamSky

After relaxing and enjoying my meal  (and netflix) … I took a nap. Lol. Butttttt, when I woke up, I hopped in the shower, washed my hair .. got real sneaky clean. I lathered myself in some soft body butter (shameless plug coming up .. now – which is available at SKYBRITNEI) and I turned on some good music, lit some candles and meditated whilst repeating positive self affirmations.

Whenever I’m taking the time to just BE, my music choice is always Bob Marley, Lauryn Hill and India Arie (among a few other artists). As for the candles, I have really been into soy candles lately and I have been loving the scent of Lavender & Vanilla (mixed). These two combined, made it extremely easy for me to relax and enjoy the tranquility and stillness of my afternoon.

Winding down, I indulged in a bit of journaling via my #ANote2Self Meditation Journal by Alex Elle. I also read a few pages of my WordsOF Gratitude book.  These are just some things that help me center myself and gain some peace of mind.

After centering my thoughts and emotions .. here comes a little bit of the ratchet. I heard via Twitter that VH1 was replaying old episodes of Flavor of Love! And I had to indulge for a little while -I couldn’t help it lol.

Sidenote| Can we discuss WHY Trey Songz is doing a dating show? Why? Why? & Why? Lol.

Anyways – then, I thought to myself ‘people are always inquiring about my self love methods’ and without me realizing today was all about self love and being okay with solitude soooo, I decided to write this for you guys. A nice drink sitting next to me and Bob playing in the background .. now is where I’ll sign off to enjoy the rest of my night.

Keep in mind that self love is more than just what I do. It is different for each person. The only thing that should be transitional in self love is that it IS INDEED self love and is built on positivity.

Be well guys and always practice self love -everyday!

xoxo,
signature
Instagram/Facebook/DeLaJipi/Twitter

Btw – as I was fixing up my site, I realized that I have over 2,000 followers. I don’t know when that happened but I am extremely grateful to all of you. I appreciate it more than you  know! Besitosss mis amores!

How To Get Your Life When You Feel Lost

I’m been away from my blogging safe haven for a while and during that time I had a breakdown, an epiphany, felt lost and confused .. and ultimately got back up and began to re-find myself.

Sky BritneiLeave a comment

I. Am. Still. Trying. To. Figure. It. Out.

Everyday is a challenge.

No, seriously.

A multitude of things has happened during my time away from my blogging safe haven. I am finishing up the final touches of redecorating my room. My heart was broken. I booked a vacation rental to Costa Rica for my 23rd birthday. My heart was broken again lol. I lost my voice. I stopped writing. I began to feel very uninspired. I re-found my voice. I wrote. A lot. I realigned my goals. My laptop broke – which ultimately stopped me from blogging to you all about all the things that I’ve been dealing with. I got a new laptop. I started to revisit the world of dating -yass honey! I started my natural body butters. I’ve been learning and experimenting with new jewelry designs and finding ways to better myself and my craft. I tried being vegan for a week. I realized that I can only be vegan for a week and the pescatarian lifestyle is for me lol. I also realized that my working environment isn’t one that makes me happy. Realized that a part of the reason that it is so hard to steadily be happy and journey on towards peace is because I am surrounded by more negative things, people and places than I thought. I realized that I need to separate myself from those things now more than ever for the sake of my mental health, clarity and continuous path to self love. Oh, I need a new job guys. This is FACTS. I’m actively looking. However, I also realized that my true goal is to work for myself. Aside from that, I also had to remind myself that even during my times of doubt and frustration that I am an extraordinary, exceptional, brilliant and beautiful human being. So for the time I was away ….. I laughed, I cried, I learned … and realized that I am a confused, beautiful but … seriously a confused mess and I need to get my life.

Yes, you read that long ass paragraph only for it to end with “I’m confused”. I am lost in translation. Swept up in thoughts of how to make myself a better person than I was yesterday and caught between making those around me happy, helping out where I can and perfecting my craft and writing and re-finding my voice and just wanting some plain old love and attention!

If the title has compelled you to read this then you’re probably waiting for the part where I give a list of proper advice about how to get ya life! Listen, this is one time where I am just as lost as you. No proper advice over here just the beginning phases of life getting that I went through, lol.

During my time away I learned that the best way to start is to identify the problem. The source of stress. Source of sadness, hindrance, confusion etc. For me, that was identifying that I felt stuck, stagnant and complacent.

Then I stopped in my tracks and thought about why I felt this way. I’ve been out of college for over a year now. I don’t have a job in my field. I gave up a year of my life to help out someone who doesn’t seem to appreciate it. My business has been open for a year and I feel like it should be bigger than it is (while I do know these things take patience, time, hard work and dedication). A relationship that I thought was going to flourish in every sense of the word … failed. I couldn’t hold on to money. Felt like important people in my life weren’t matching the effort in which I give them (this still holds true but this is for another post lol). Oh man, and so much more.

I cried. Then I cried some more. I let out a rage of emotions.

Then I snapped out of it.

If you are a frequent reader of my blog, it won’t surprise you that I then made a list.

I made a list of goals. Then I prioritized them. Then I made a list of how to accomplish them. I made a list of my feelings. Then I made a list of how to work through each one.

I consoled myself. Because at 2 a.m when you feel like the world is crashing down on you and there’s no one you can call .. you’re all you have. And even when you feel like you deserve more than that or you don’t feel like that’s not enough … YOU HAVE TO BE ENOUGH FOR YOU. No matter what.

I revisited yoga and different breathing practices. Because during this time, I stopped and I could feel the tension rising within me.

I prayed. I’m not religious in any sense of the word but I believe in a higher power and I find solace in talking to that being.

I woke up one morning and I decided that I could no longer let my feelings of complacency stop me from being motivated and taking charge of my life.

I woke up that same morning grateful that I have been given another chance to make things right & to be my best self.

I applied to jobs. I read a little. Put on a face mask. Laughed. Facetimed bae and told myself that the following days would be different.

I spoke my goals into existence and I have been doing it since that morning.

Then I smiled because the only place to go from here is up. There will be a few more bad patches along the way -I know. There will be more times, when I’m feeling less grateful and less blissful, more discouraged, more frustrated but I know that I will overcome it. As I stated before, I am an extraordinary, beautiful, intelligent, confused mess and I realized if it wasn’t so, I wouldn’t be me and I couldn’t and wouldn’t have it any other way.

& CHECK .. there you have it, in the midst of all things confusing, ya girl has begun to get her life.

signature.jpg

Keep up with me:
Etsy/ Personal Instagram/ Facebook/ De La Jipi Instagram

Follow my blog with Bloglovin

To Choose Or Not To Choose

Sky BritneiLeave a comment

I think it’s important for people to know that they have the choice of how they are going to live their lives.

What do I mean?

In my opinion, a lot of the times we can become so consumed by negativity that we forget to bask in all the positivity that constantly surrounds us. For one negative thing that happens .. A thousand positive things can follow, put we have to choose for that to happen .. we have to want it bad enough.

So for 2016 and all the years to come .. I challenge you to make that choice.

Choose peace over violence. Choose happiness over anger. Choose humility over arrogance. Choose uplifting qualities over detrimental ones. Choose to smile over .. well, not smiling. Choose to forgive over holding grudges. Choose freedom. Choose love. Choose yourself.

xoxo Cielo.

Sunshine Through Cloudy Days …

Sky Britnei2 Comments

IMG_5021[1]

When I look for quotes .. I try my hardest to look for a quote that is relatable, written with passion and inspiring for everyone. This quote above does just that – I related to it, felt the passion and was inspired. All I can do now is hope that others feel the same way.

So here’s my story – Some days I wake up and I am literally not in the mood. I don’t want to move. I feel worthless, discouraged and there is no consoling me or getting me out of that state of mind. Some days I wake up and my obstacles, shortcomings and all the things that are (potentially) going wrong at that time get the best of me and I find myself questioning whatever higher power is out there. I wonder why I’m not good enough, why things don’t always work out the way that (I think) they should and what is my purpose on this earth (just to name a few things and yes I know it’s very melodramatic but it’s the truth). I find myself sad, crying and feeling extremely lonely. Sometimes I even become enraged by how bad I feel. I think we might all have those days. But (for me) on those days it feels like it’s me against the world.

With that being said .. there were many times before that I wallowed in that self pity and drowned myself in harsh and unloving thoughts. To be honest .. there are still times now that the negativity gets a hold of me and locks me down … but trust me, I’m working on that!

But the good days .. those bad days turned to good -I knock those thoughts out of my head. I lay in bed (maybe I’ll scroll through FB and IG lol) and I literally think of every positive thing that I’ve got going for myself. I’ve graduated college. I’ve opened my own business. I’m working and helping to provide a stable home for my mother and I. I will be applying to graduate school. I’m in a loving relationship. I have so many plans and ideas that I’m working on. I have an awesome support system. And hey, I’m kinda cute.

I list these things and then I tell myself that I am better than laying in bed and feeling sorry for myself. Then I force myself to get up and make a plan for the day; and it doesn’t have to be something major .. but just enough to get myself going .. to let myself know that I have A REASON MANY REASONS to keep going, to keep fighting, to keep happiness alive, to succeed and to keep pushing forward. I tell myself that I am worthy, that I am precious, that I am a gem, and beautiful and then I get my ass up and get started on my day and 9 times out of 10 it’s a beautiful day.

That is how I create my sunshine on a day full of clouds.

So now I challenge you all .. on those days that you just “aren’t feeling it”. Try. Get up. Put positive thoughts in place and MAKE yourself feel it. Think good thoughts, be productive, stay active (mentally and physically), breathe and take it one step at a time. You got this. ❤

xoxo Cielo.
PeacexLovexHappiness

The Journey

Sky BritneiLeave a comment

IMG_4863[1].JPGI found this picture and automatically related to it. As I’ve stated previously, for a long time the real me was hiding behind a superficial personality. I wanted to be cool, ‘down’ and I wanted people to like me and be able to relate to others, but I was still afraid to show the world ME (lol). So I wrapped myself up in friends that didn’t care for me, in a attitude that shielded my wounds and a life that wasn’t my own.
But then I made a conscious decision to drop the act. Why? Well, because I was unhappy. I realized that people are either going to love me or hate me and if that’s the case they’re going to have to love or hate the real me & honestly .. it wasn’t getting me anywhere. I didn’t feel like I fit in, sometimes things that I wanted to say never left my mouth because I didn’t want anyone to think I sounded stupid, I acted in ways that weren’t me and it just didn’t feel right.
As soon as I let my corky, weird and fun personality shine through … I got exactly what I didn’t know I needed – acceptance from the right people, negativity straying away from my existence, the courage to do things that my fear previously held me back from doing (and so much more lol i can go on for days), but most importantly it helped me gain my happiness and freedom- and I couldn’t feel any more blessed than I do right now.


PeacexLovexHappiness

xoxo Cielo