How To Get Your Life When You Feel Lost

I’m been away from my blogging safe haven for a while and during that time I had a breakdown, an epiphany, felt lost and confused .. and ultimately got back up and began to re-find myself.

I. Am. Still. Trying. To. Figure. It. Out.

Everyday is a challenge.

No, seriously.

A multitude of things has happened during my time away from my blogging safe haven. I am finishing up the final touches of redecorating my room. My heart was broken. I booked a vacation rental to Costa Rica for my 23rd birthday. My heart was broken again lol. I lost my voice. I stopped writing. I began to feel very uninspired. I re-found my voice. I wrote. A lot. I realigned my goals. My laptop broke – which ultimately stopped me from blogging to you all about all the things that I’ve been dealing with. I got a new laptop. I started to revisit the world of dating -yass honey! I started my natural body butters. I’ve been learning and experimenting with new jewelry designs and finding ways to better myself and my craft. I tried being vegan for a week. I realized that I can only be vegan for a week and the pescatarian lifestyle is for me lol. I also realized that my working environment isn’t one that makes me happy. Realized that a part of the reason that it is so hard to steadily be happy and journey on towards peace is because I am surrounded by more negative things, people and places than I thought. I realized that I need to separate myself from those things now more than ever for the sake of my mental health, clarity and continuous path to self love. Oh, I need a new job guys. This is FACTS. I’m actively looking. However, I also realized that my true goal is to work for myself. Aside from that, I also had to remind myself that even during my times of doubt and frustration that I am an extraordinary, exceptional, brilliant and beautiful human being. So for the time I was away ….. I laughed, I cried, I learned … and realized that I am a confused, beautiful but … seriously a confused mess and I need to get my life.

Yes, you read that long ass paragraph only for it to end with “I’m confused”. I am lost in translation. Swept up in thoughts of how to make myself a better person than I was yesterday and caught between making those around me happy, helping out where I can and perfecting my craft and writing and re-finding my voice and just wanting some plain old love and attention!

If the title has compelled you to read this then you’re probably waiting for the part where I give a list of proper advice about how to get ya life! Listen, this is one time where I am just as lost as you. No proper advice over here just the beginning phases of life getting that I went through, lol.


During my time away I learned that the best way to start is to identify the problem. The source of stress. Source of sadness, hindrance, confusion etc. For me, that was identifying that I felt stuck, stagnant and complacent.

Then I stopped in my tracks and thought about why I felt this way. I’ve been out of college for over a year now. I don’t have a job in my field. I gave up a year of my life to help out someone who doesn’t seem to appreciate it. My business has been open for a year and I feel like it should be bigger than it is (while I do know these things take patience, time, hard work and dedication). A relationship that I thought was going to flourish in every sense of the word … failed. I couldn’t hold on to money. Felt like important people in my life weren’t matching the effort in which I give them (this still holds true but this is for another post lol). Oh man, and so much more.

I cried. Then I cried some more. I let out a rage of emotions.

Then I snapped out of it.

If you are a frequent reader of my blog, it won’t surprise you that I then made a list.

I made a list of goals. Then I prioritized them. Then I made a list of how to accomplish them. I made a list of my feelings. Then I made a list of how to work through each one.

I consoled myself. Because at 2 a.m when you feel like the world is crashing down on you and there’s no one you can call .. you’re all you have. And even when you feel like you deserve more than that or you don’t feel like that’s not enough … YOU HAVE TO BE ENOUGH FOR YOU. No matter what.

I revisited yoga and different breathing practices. Because during this time, I stopped and I could feel the tension rising within me.

I prayed. I’m not religious in any sense of the word but I believe in a higher power and I find solace in talking to that being.

I woke up one morning and I decided that I could no longer let my feelings of complacency stop me from being motivated and taking charge of my life.

I woke up that same morning grateful that I have been given another chance to make things right & to be my best self.

I applied to jobs. I read a little. Put on a face mask. Laughed. Facetimed bae and told myself that the following days would be different.

I spoke my goals into existence and I have been doing it since that morning.

Then I smiled because the only place to go from here is up. There will be a few more bad patches along the way -I know. There will be more times, when I’m feeling less grateful and less blissful, more discouraged, more frustrated but I know that I will overcome it. As I stated before, I am an extraordinary, beautiful, intelligent, confused mess and I realized if it wasn’t so, I wouldn’t be me and I couldn’t and wouldn’t have it any other way.

& CHECK .. there you have it, in the midst of all things confusing, ya girl has begun to get her life.

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Dear Black Women …

There’s this thing women do … specifically black women. I hate it.

We live in a world where the black woman is constantly mistreated. We are unheard. Abused. Considered the low of the low. And when we speak out about the injustices that we face, we are deemed angry, aggressive, unruly and (my favorite) ghetto/ratchet .. when really we are just indignant and tired.

That’s why I hate it.

I HATE when women – women of color, my sisters talk down to and judge other sisters. It does something to me. Pisses me off on a whole other level.

I was tempted to talk about this at this particular moment for two reasons:

  1. Sometime last week, a young idiot on twitter decided to post this picture along with a caption that read “Ladies, line up in order from Chill to Petty”. To which he received many wonderful RT’s that included things like ” Line up in order from independent to child supportive” and “Line up in order from highest to lowest GPA” among others.image
    All I could think at that moment was ‘wow’. A black man sending out that tweet. I mean, it’s sad to say but sometimes it doesn’t seem that the black man is on our side. Then I had to change my point of view and I narrowed it down to age and ignorance because well he is young and clearly has much growing up to do.
    So what does that have to do with us, black women?

    Well, I took to FB and I was insanely close to calling out (some) black men for their lack of respect and for demeaning black woman  for the exact thing that they praise white women for … until I saw a dark skinned woman repost the picture. Instead of firing rage at the young man that posted this disgusting picture and calling black woman to stand together, her comment was something along the lines of “All light skinned women think they’re better when really they are just submissive and uneducated because they don’t need to be. They get a pass because of their skin color and they don’t know the ‘real’ struggle of being a black woman”.
    I was truly amazed. I was even more amazed as I saw the comments under the post.
    I mean, dark skinned woman, light skinned, brown skinned, yellow, purple and blue … all these woman were angry with each other and I was insanely confused and entirely appalled.

  2. After seeing that post, I remembered a conversation I had with someone (let’s call her Erica). Erica, my younger brother and myself were having a conversation about my brothers ‘relationships’. My younger brother stated that he would never date a dark skinned woman, to which I looked at him and his dark skin, thought about his mother and her dark skin and asked if he was stupid before asking him why not. He stated that he just didn’t want anyone dark. As I tried to explain to his young, ignorant, 16 year old mind how ridiculous he sounded spewing self hate, Erica stated that she defended my brother. She continued on to say that her son could never bring someone that is “too dark” home and I had to look at her like she was insane.

    The hate that we black woman share for one another is disgusting. (SOME) Light skin women denying their blackness and feeling as though they are better than others. (SOME) Dark skin women hating light skin women who are on their side and denying them the right to their blackness. And it’s more than just the fight between skin tones. Sometimes, I’ll see black women nit picking at anything that her sister does. “Natural vs Perms”, “Casual Dressing vs Mini Skirts”, “Hoes vs Wife Material”. I mean it’s repulsive. To hear my sisters, black women constantly belittle and judge each other. Especially when we have so much working against us.

    It’s clear that I am a ‘high yellow’ light skin chick. I get that. I also get that because of colorism in our culture sometimes I am ‘favored’ more than my darker skin sisters. But, I try to change that. For this present, and the future. I try to empower all woman of color because at the end of the day my fight is your fight and your fight is mine. We all have different experiences being a black woman but that doesn’t mean anyone’s story is inferior to anyone elses. How can we expect to overcome the Donald Trumps in the world if we keep holding ourselves back. There’s this constant battle between who is better than who and all I keep wondering is why the hell can’t we all be great. Praise our strengths and where we come from, acknowledge our faults and learn from them while banding together to become stronger than any of our persecutors ever imagined.

    We are bigger than the fight that was created for us. We are bigger than this systematic oppression they have laid in front of our faces. It was said over 300 years ago that the way to keep the black race down was to create a division within. That is was colorism is. Pinning us against one another. And in a time where we have white women preaching feminism that doesn’t account for us, in a time where non black women want to be black and steal our culture without knowing our struggles and giving us credit, in a time where a white mans only use for a black woman is to sexualize and fetishize us, in a time where many black men don’t appreciate us, I challenge you to uplift your sister and not help in holding her back.

    We all have to do better. ❤

    So, what I’m trying to say is … who gonna have our backs if we don’t have it?

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12 Black Businesses To Shop From

For the past few months I have been really keen on switching over to buying from my black sisters and brothers. Here, I have compiled a short list of 12 black businesses that I have (or plan) to buy from/support in the upcoming weeks. Check it out ! ❤

For Head Gear

  1. Visit The Wrap Life .


Out of Brooklyn, NY, Nnenna Stella offers a variety of beautiful hand printed African inspired head wraps among other things.

2. Visit Loc Soc

Bear

This business offers a wrap that is for fashion and protective styling. Two in one! Made with locs in mind, it has now been adapted to wear with any style, length or texture of hair.


Apparel

3. Visit Kashmir.VIII

Image of Adore (All Over Tee)

Kashmir Thompson’s giant selection offers everything from clutches, t-shirts to even coasters.

Image of Grace (Clutch)

4. Visit The Very Black Project

_DSC0022-2.jpgCreated in 2014, this website features hats and sweatshirts (among other things) and was made so that we could un-apologetically love our blackness. Lol, how could you not want to support that?

5. Visit Tees In The Trap

This website features phone cases, coffee mugs, totes and of course t-shirts. All of these items are accented with popular terms and catch phrases from the hip-hop community, black culture and just everyday life.

6. Visit Mo’s Bows

Yellow Floral

A 14 year old from Memphis is the CEO of Mo’s Bows hand made bow ties. He realized his love for fashion and at the age of 9 started his own company. I think we should all take the time out to re-evaluate our lives because this kid is amazing, lol!

7. Visit Gloss Rags
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This website features the names of our brothers and sisters that have been victims of police brutality, unfair justice system and unjustified killings on t-shirts. It’s a beautiful way to pay homage to those who are no longer with us.


Hair Care

8. Visit Camille Rose Naturals
Moroccan Pear Conditioning Custrad is a culinary cocktail blend of nourishing oils to soften and protect the hair's moisture barrier. Recipe: Our natural buttercream base is silkened with a culinary cocktail oil blend of Moroccan pear, Cherry Kernel and Urica (nettle). Vitamin-rich extracts A,B,C,D & K are mixed with protective Antioxidants to offer potent nourishment to strands in need of a little TLC. Rich Omega 6 and 9 top off this powerfully sweet conditioning treat for all hair types.

To all my brothers and sisters that are interested in using all natural products, this is for you! Developed in 2010 by Janell Stephens, Camille Rose Naturals is dedicated to providing hair care as well as beauty care products that are natural and hand made.


Beauty

9. Visit The Lip Bar

 

This website features a variety of beautiful lipsticks. Besides the amazing price, I love that they use natural ingredients such as jojoba oil and shea butter in their products.

10. Visit  Ka’oir Cosmetics

Baby Bleu by Kaoir

CEO Keyshia Ka’oir offers a make up line that has the most radiant and beautiful lipsticks. Her website also features lashes, and nail products.


Fun!

11. Visit Cards For All People

Black Card Revoked - Original Flavor

Reminiscent of the popular game ‘Cards Against Humanity’, Cards For All People challenges your knowledge about black culture.


Jewelry

12. Visit Cielo’s Hippie Shop

Lapis Adjustable Necklace - De La Jipi Collection

Now what kind of person would I be if I didn’t feature myself in this list of black businesses to shop from, lol! I am very much inspired by bohemian culture and incorporate a variety of healing stones in my designs.


With that being said, I hope you enjoyed this short list of black businesses to buy from. ❤

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Tips For Maintaining Healthy Natural Hair

With my last hair care post, I talked about a few ways that my naturalistas would be able to tell if their hair is healthy. With this new post I wanted to give some tips about ways to maintain that healthy hair. So here we go!

  • Cut out heat! If you do feel the need to use heat .. use it at a low setting. (Although I will say, you might as well just let it air dry if you are going to use a blow-dryer at a low setting). Try to use twist outs and braid outs as an alternative for curling your hair.
  • Snip those split ends. Some natural babies think that our natural hair doesn’t need to be clipped from time to time but trust me it is necessary. Clipping those ends every few weeks is essential in promoting hair growth and eliminating fly aways. Also, if you don’t clip those split ends it will only get worse over time – and that’s not cute.
  • Moisturize that scalp. Even if you don’t have time every day, just taking 10 minutes every few days to massage your scalp with some nutritious oils can help to promote growth. My favorite oils to use are coconut, tea tree, argon, and Jamaican black castor oil.
  • Don’t moisturize TOO much or excessively. Too much moisture results in product build up which leaves your hair feeling and looks dull and lifeless and is also unhealthy.
  • Deep Conditioning is your friend.
  • Coconut Oil is also your friend.
  • Okay okay, Jamaican black castor oil is coconut oils cousin aka also your friend.
  • Switch products every few months. Our hair can easily become accustomed to the products we use. This means that our hair will eventually stop reacting positively (or just won’t react at all) to some of our products. It’s nothing bad but it is something that can happen (just like with make up or other skin care items). Just switching out 1-2 products every few months will definitely do your hair some good.
  • Silk and Satin Caps/Bonnets and Satin Pillowcases for the win! I am prone to NOT following this but it is vital! Satin Pillowcases and/or Silk Caps are so important because they lock in that moisture that so necessary for hair growth. If you sleep with nothing on your head and you have cotton pillow cases -smh- the life is literally being sucked out of your hair and also making it more frizzy, dry and brittle.
  • Protective styling. One of the best ways to retain moisture in your hair and promote healthy hair is to protect your hair. There are so many ways to protect your hair from braids, wigs, weaves and much more .. the possibilities are endless and FUN!
  • More water and healthy eating with a side of exercise please. This is self explanatory. Just like I stated in my previous hair care post what you put into your body is what you get out of it!

So far this is all I can think of but trust me these tips will help save a life -the life of your hair! Lol ❤

xoxo Cielo.

Do I Have Healthy Hair ?

So as many of you guys know by now .. I am a proud member of the natural hair community! There’s many ups and downs to having and maintaining natural hair but my hair is something I take great pride in. I use as many natural products as I can and have recently been maintaining a healthy lifestyle as well (now that’s a process lol). As you know what you put into your body is what you get out of it – water has become my best friend (lol -just saying). However, one of the biggest questions I get from natural newbies is how do they recognize if their hair is healthy or not and how do they maintain healthy hair. So with this post I wanted to share 4 major ways (that works for me) on how I am able to tell if natural hair is healthy hair.

The next hair post will be some of my tips on how to maintain that healthy hair.

Elasticity/Strength –
It’s hard to explain, but elasticity is when your hair can be manipulated, styled and/or stretched without breaking. If you can stretch your hair (without it breaking) and it snaps back to take it’s original shape .. then you my friend are in good shape. ❤
With natural hair we are prone to shrinkage. As much as we hate it, shrinkage is actually a good thing lol. Shrinkage doesn’t mean that we don’t have long and/or healthy hair but it means that our hair has the ability to still hold the shape of our natural curls and coils which in turn means that we are doing something right. So, here’s a test for you. When your hair is wet, take a few curls and stretch them out. Now release! If your hair returns to its normal shrunken state after you have released your hair, that is a good sign. However, if your hair doesn’t hold your natural curls/coils and it doesn’t revert back that means that you’ve got some work to do!

Retains/Produces Shine & Moisture –
If your hair is in a good state then it will naturally produce moisture and shine (this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t still moisturize your hair lol).
Dry and brittle hair means that you could be using the wrong products (containing sulfates, parabens, alcohol etc). Or it means that you are using either too much or not enough products to add shine and moisture.
You have to find a happy median. Using too much products means that you are going to acquire product build up rapidly which results in you having to wash your hair more frequently. And that results in your hair being stripped of its natural oils aka now you have dry hair!
Now if you aren’t using enough products or simply are not taking the time out to massage your scalp every few days then once again you will have dry and brittle hair.

Shedding –
Shedding is just apart of the hair process. However, if you see an increase of breakage/shedding then you know that you have to make changes to your hair care regimen. Too much shedding can easily be detected on hair brushes, combs and even when you are washing your hair.

Softness and little to no detangling –
This is the same as with shine and moisture. If you have healthy hair, it will feel smooth to touch and not dry and brittle. You should be able to easily run your fingers through your hair and detangling shouldn’t be much of an issue.


As I promote in many of my hair care posts, be sure to use natural products on your hair and incorporate protective styling at any chance you get. These are some keys things to make sure that your natural hair is also healthy hair.

xoxo Cielo.

 

 

 

 

2015 – Good Riddens & Thanks For The Lessons

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Day365_0212015 wasn’t my most gracious year. I had a lot of obstacles, people, negativity and so much more trying to hold me back. But I will say this – 2015 was the year I got shit done! I’m proud of myself; all boasting included. After a few depressing years full of self-hatred, self doubt and sadness .. I truly did prosper.

I graduated from undergrad .. and it WASN’T easy. I fought like hell to walk across that stage. I began working with an incredible team as a research assistant for one of the few people that pushed me and made me a better person throughout my undergraduate career. I connected with a whole new set of people who will forever be family (winks at Clari, Gisbel, & Flo <3). I gained understanding of myself. I started a spiritual journey .. a beautiful journey of self appreciation, self love, positivity, peace and happiness. AND I literally started my own business and well I started this baby here – elementsofahippie.com. I started my own brand; something that will forever be mine! I mean 2015 wasn’t all bad.

With all of that being said, I wanted to share some lessons that I learned through 2015.

  1. It is not selfish to put your happiness first.
    You deserve to be happy and you deserve to put yourself first. We live in a world that makes us feel selfish when we put our needs and wants above the needs and wants of our loved ones. But think about this, if we aren’t happy (I mean TRULY happy) how are we going to help anyone achieve happiness? How can we expect to help others if we are not helping ourselves?
  2. Things aren’t always going to go your way. That’s okay.
  3. It is okay to be angry, sad, emotional, “down in the dumps” .. as long as you don’t stay there. Let it go and move on.
  4. There is no rush to happiness.
    It is not a destination. It is a journey. There will be faults and setbacks along the path but that’s okay. Be patient.
  5. Be patient.
  6. You are capable of more than you give yourself credit for.
    A lot of times we limit ourselves.
    “Well, I’m not even going to try to do ___, because I know that I won’t be any good.”
    If we keep thinking like that we will forever be stagnant. We will forever be stuck and unfulfilled. We have to take chances, try and even if we fail, we’ve learned and that is more than a lot of people can say for themselves. We have to be able to give ourselves credit when it is due (and if when it’s not). Be your biggest fan.
  7. No seriously, be your biggest fan.
  8. Health is important.
    I mean, I always knew this. Lol. But this year it seems like I got the short end of the stick. I feel like I was always sick (especially during the beginning of 2015). Then I would get a wake up call and live a healthy lifestyle … then I wouldn’t … then I would … then I wouldn’t. It’s not right and I know it. To live right on the outside, we have to start doing better inside … and well, truth be told (I don’t know about you guys but) I gotta do better.
  9. You do not owe anyone any explanations.
  10. Not everyone is going to understand you. You still don’t need to explain yourself.
  11. Self Love is necessary to prosper.
    This is simple but so major. Stop beating yourself up. You want to prosper and be happy and be successful. It will come in due time. But what is prosperity, happiness and success without the love of self?
  12. Family does not always mean blood.
    Sometimes the ones that you expect to have your back, won’t. Sometimes the ones that you don’t expect to leave you behind, will.
    Family is always about love, honor, respect and all of those good things but family doesn’t always mean blood .. check out Cain and Abel.
  13. It is okay to let go of people or relationships that no longer benefit you. Do not feel guilty about it.
    I wrote in my previous post that something we need to leave in 2015 are “People/Relationships that are stagnant”. Well a lot of times we don’t do that (or we hold on to those people/relationships) because we feel guilty about letting those people go. Trust me, once you start to let those people go, your life will automatically begin to feel lighter.
  14. Stop depending on people .. who aren’t dependable.
    Self explanatory. This was a lesson in 2009,2010,2011,2012,2013 and 2014. I just don’t listen. Hopefully I get my life together for 2016! Lol
  15. As cliche as it sounds, everything truly does happen for a reason.
  16. Even when things aren’t going your way, always be thankful.

This year .. was hard but through it all I am beyond thankful. For everything. For everyone. The good. The bad. The happy and the sad. ❤

Good Riddens 2015 .. 2016, I’m ready for ya!

xoxo Cielo.

The Holy Grail – Well for Natural Hair Anyways

I feel kind of cool when people ask me how I take care of my hair. They want to know how I maintain the fullness while still keeping my curls in tack. So I decided to write a post for my natural babies ❤ I’m going to list the products that I swear by and hopefully that helps some of you guys out.

SideBar| There are other products that I use as well .. but I guess you can just call these my favs lol.

First and foremost, months before I decided to be natural I researched all I needed to know about excellent natural hair products. For me .. I swear by anything that HeyFranHey says. She honestly has been a huge inspiration on how to live my life (and take care of myself) in an all natural way (for more than just hair care too, you guys should check her out). She is one of the few that helped me realize that too many of the hair (and body) products we use contain terrible ingredients that are detrimental to our health. So with that being said (with the exception of my hairdye lol) I use all natural products in my hair.

So Here We Go ! ( In no particular order)

1. Shea Moisture Raw Shea Butter Deep Treatment Masque The title is pretty self explanatory. I use this as a deep treatment. I usually get a foil cap from the beauty supply store (or use a plastic bag) to cover my hair and leave this in my hair for about 20-30 minutes after I have finished washing. It leaves your hair feeling so amazing and I feel like it really does the job!

 

2. Shea Moisture Raw Shea Butter Extra Moisture Detangler. Now this product is not extremely necessary. However, I loveeeee this product. I use it after I condition especially if I plan to leave my hair out and don’t want my curls to get tangled and unruly throughout the day. My curls look so defined and radiant after using this product.

 

 

3. Shea Moisture Raw Shea Butter Restorative Conditioner. I don’t use this conditioner as much anymore. But, if you are a newbie natural (especially if you are transitioning) this was my holy grail #1 product for a very long time. Your curls look extremely full and luscious and your hair just feels amazeeeeee. Lol

 

 

 

4.  Shea Moisture Raw Shea Butter Reconstructive Finishing Elixir. This product isn’t necessary but it does help to control the frizz and leaves your hair with an extra shine. This is the last product I use when leaving my hair out (after a wash and go) or when I am taking out my twist or braid out.

 

 

 

  5. Shea Moisture Raw Shea Butter Retention Shampoo. Now I don’t always shampoo my hair. I try to do it every other week because shampoo tends to strip your hair of way too much moisture (especially when used frequently). But when I do, this is one of the VERY few shampoos that I use. Other than that I cowash. However, being that this shampoo is all natural it still leaves your hair feeling extremely soft as opposed to other harsh shampoos that contain parabens and sulfates.
P.S if you see either of those on any products you are using … RUNNNN lol … No seriously!

 

 

6. Shea Moisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen, Grow & Restore Treatment Masque. Ohhhh I love this stuff. It has literally become one of my new favs. This deep treatment leaves your hair feeling so fresh and soft. I use this the same as my other deep treatments .. (covering my head with a foil cap and leaving it for 20 to 30 minutes).

 

 

 

7. Shea Moisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen, Grow & Restore Shampoo. Being that this line also infuses peppermint into their treatment the effect is the same as the treatment masque (pictured above). Your hair and scalp just feels so refreshing after using this shampoo. Usually what I do with this shampoo is (after I massage my scalp) I let it sit in my hair for about 5 minutes just so all those healing and hydrating properties are really infused into my scalp. Also (SUPER PLUS) this bottle of shampoo is 16oz for around 10-12 dollars as opposed to other shea moisture shampoos which (I think) are only 8oz for the same price !

 

8. Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curl & Shine Shampoo and Conditioner – and Curl and Style Mix. Now this is a 3 in 1 deal. But I thought why not picture these together .. well, because together they are amazing .. and let’s face it … I’m killing 3 birds with one stone lol! Of all the Shea Moisture lines … this one is absolutely my favorite. When using this my hair feels so smooth and soft and free and light and great lol. My curl pattern is outrageouslyyy gorg. There is little to no frizz and it smells incredible!

 

 

**SideBar| Another thing that I like about Shea Moisture is that they let you know how exactly their product is to be used. (Of course you don’t have to use it that exact way .. but it is helpful especially if you are a natural newbie.) Oh and if you wait for the sale at Walgreens you can buy one and get one half off .. lol you’re welcome**

9. Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curl Enhancing Smoothie. This is my one of go too product for my wash and go styles. I love the way it makes my hair feel and like I just stated this line is my absolute fav from Shea Moistures Collection

 

 

 

10. Jamaican Black Castor Oil. This stuff here doesn’t smell the best but it is instrumental in hair growth. It is also the way that I seal my ends for protective styling. Jamaican Black Castor Oil has so many nutritious properties that you really can’t go wrong with including it in your hair regimen. Also .. a little goes a very long way.

 

 

 

11. Spectrum Unrefined Coconut Oil. I use this for added moisture and shine. Just like JBCastor Oil there are so many healthy aspects to Coconut Oil so adding this to your hair is vital. Especially if your looking to gain fullness. Just be sure that you are getting all natural cold pressed unrefined oils. This means that it has not been processed and the vital ingredients are still there.

 

 

 

 

12.  As I Am Curling Jelly. Now this hasn’t been in my regimen for long. But I have noticed a huge change in my curl pattern after using this product. My curls are definitely more defined but it doesn’t leave my hair feeling stiff (as some other ‘gels’ do) which is a super plus. The only downside is that this product is a bit pricey in comparison to the others.

 

 

 

13. 18-In-1 Peppermint Pure Castile Soap. This is one of my favorites because there is so much that can be done with this awesome soap. Obviously one of the many things is using it in your hair and because of the peppermint it leaves your hair and scalp feeling incredddddd!

 

 

 

 

14. Tea Tree Oil. What is pictured isn’t the brand I use (I ran out and I couldn’t find the one I use on google) but as long as it is 100% natural then you’re good. This is the product that I use to massage my scalp. As with the other natural oils, Tea Tree Oil has many benefits. Massaging your scalp daily (for at least 10 minutes) helps to promote hair growth so it’s something that you want to infuse into your hair regimen .. especially if you desire thickness.

 

 


 

I hope that this list helps someone. #Naturalista Lol

xoxo Cielo.
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Superrrr late edit! – My hair texture is a mix of 3c/4a
Heres a picture to help you out …

4 Ways To Protect Your Natural Hair + WTH Is Going On With Mine

Oh, my natural girls … I don’t know if it’s just me but sometimes my natural hair makes me so sad.
Why?
Well, because IT TAKES SO MUCH TO MAINTAIN … AND MONEY .. the moneyyyyyyyy. I can’t handle it.

In all honesty, wearing your natural hair out all the time not only takes a lot of time and money spent on the RIGHT products but it also wears your hair out and makes it more susceptible to breakage. So I comprised a mini list of some ways that you can go about protecting your natural hair (not only giving your hair the break it needs, but you and your money).

1.) BRAIDS .. or Marley Twist Extensions.

DSC_0258I prefer braids (because they last longer) but either one is good really.
Pros: -They’re fashionable and easy to style .. I mean on a day you don’t feel like doing much -which is pretty much every day for me- you just throw that sucka in a bun and go (and you still look cute!).
– It’s a cheap hairstyle to accomplish, especially if you live in the New York City area. If you go to the right beauty supply store all you need is about 15-20 dollars (depending on how long you want your hair etc). Now you could go to a hairdresser and pay over $100 dollars to get this done .. or you can watch a YouTube tutorial, gather 2 or 3 of your friends, a box of Papa Johns Pizza and get to work in your head (JUST SAYING)
-You can wash your hair with the braids in (not too sure about twist though).
-It’s a good way to experience with colors, if you aren’t willing to color your own hair.
-You can keep redoing them if you don’t want to keep the same hairstyle for too long. For example; my mother takes them out row by row during her own leisure time and redoes them

Cons: – They take a long time to do – especially if you are working alone.
– If you do plan to wash them, they take a long time to dry.

Note: Make sure to be careful to your edges. A lot of times, girls go overboard with this hairstyle and in turn their edges go . Just make sure to be soft around the edges.

2.) Crotchet Braids

Pros:– They don’t take long to dograd9
– They are very fashionable
– They resemble a variety of natural hair textures (depending on what kind of hair you get)
– Versatile styling options – can also experiment with colors
– Inexpensive, this is another style that will only cost about 15 to 20 dollars
– Easy removal

Cons: (for me anyways) this style was my LEAST favorite because it was so hard to maintain. Then again, I opted to not flexi rod my hair and went for the obnoxiously big afro. Most times that I have seen this hairstyle done they do it like this Image for Crochet Braids Hairstyles but blah I think that is a little boring. Lol
– Doesn’t last as long as other protective styling (in my experience)

3.) Sew In

Now here is one that I haven’t accomplished as of yet (with my hair being completely natural) but that is just because I don’t have the urge to put a weave in lol. BUT, it is a very good way to protect your natural hair.
Pros: – Low Maintenance
– You are able to wash your hair with a sew in
– If you buy the right brand of hair, you will be able to re-use the hair for multiple styling options
– One of the best ways to experience with colors (especially if you do invest in a good brand of hair)

Cons: – Investing in a good weave can be get pricey
– Whyyyy does it itch so much? >_<

4.) Wig

Don’t want to sit for 4 hours to install a weave. Get a wig! You can make your own or you can simply buy one at your IMG_1147[1]local beauty supply store.
What I do is buy one (a synthetic curly) that only cost about 20 dollars. If you are rocking a curly ‘fro and you’re just testing the waters .. I would say synthetic is the way to go. Just braid your hair underneath (or twist-I do both), put on a stocking cap (which is optional) and throw that bad boy on.
Be cautious, there are a large variety of wigs. Currently, I am rocking a half wig but there are full wigs, wigs that use virgin hair, straight hair etc. And if you’re willing to take the extra leap, check out YouTube for a tutorial on how to make your own wig.
Pros: -Cheap
-Stylish
-You can take it off at the end of the long day
-Low Maintenance
-Fun
-Did I mention you can take it off at the end of the day !!!
-Easy Removal
-Can be inexpensive

Cons: -Wigs can get pricey (especially if you are making your own .. or want a wig with human hair
-You will get addicted to buying them

With that being said, this concludes my list of ways to protect your natural hair and save some money. I hope you guys enjoy this list and try some things out.


Now, I haven’t had a post up about my hair in a while and honestly it’s because I was stuck at a stand still with what to do with my hair. For graduation, I showcased crotchet braids .. then soon after, I returned to wearing my hair natural. Then I returned back to my braids. After wearing those out, I decided I wanted to try Marley Twist …… let’s just say it wasn’t my favorite. After being stuck once again, my mother suggested I buy a wig (hence why it’s on my list, it’s awesome!) Now when I was in highschool, I did occasionally wear some of my moms curly wigs (please excuse the poor quality of my webcam, lol) as you will see in the pictures to the right. For some reason, when I went to college, I guess I felt like it wasn’t cool anymore … I LIED TO MYSELF, THEY’RE STILL COOL and that is what I’m currently rocking out. I got my current one from a beauty supply store for 12 dollars but I have being YouTubing because I plan on making my own. I have also asked for my cousins assistance in making one for me as well. I just plan to be wigged up !!!! Lol.

IMG_1108[1]So there you go, this is my current state of hair. Who knows what new style and/or color will come my way but for now I’m wigging it out and I’m happy. Oh! And Wigs are GREAT if you are lazy!

xoxo Cielo.

When Hair Boredom Strikes

Welp, well hair boredom strikes you I walk into my bathroom and start searching for something to do. I found a bunch of old colors (some of which I never used), picked a few, mixed them around and started on a journey!

So this was before.

I decided not to bleach my hair before doing this because I don’t plan on keeping this hairstyle for too long so damaging my hair even more for an extremely temporarily hairstyle would be a little ridiculous (in my opinion).IMG_1920Anywho,

I walked into the bathroom and went to work.

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So I ended up mixing aquamarine, ginger, raspberry twist and hot pink together. Btw: these are all colors by the brand ADORE. I always see these colors at beauty supply stores and they are relatively cheap and these colors are semi-permanent. Basically that means that eventually they start to wash out and I can use a color remover to get these colors out as well.IMG_1898

At first I wasn’t liking that so much of the ginger color (which is pretty much a darker blonde) showed through since I was using that color as more of a lighter for the raspberry twist and hot pink colors.IMG_1899 IMG_1903 IMG_1904see ew. lol

So I ended up adding a bit more of the hot pink and aquamarine color to those bits that I thought were too light.

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(I’m not sure if you see the difference in these pictures but I promise there was a huge difference)

Also, this is what the back looked like.

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After leaving this in for about 15 minutes (because I didn’t want it to be super pigmented); I took a shower, washed and deep conditioned my hair and towel dried.

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(excuse my undone eyebrows)

To further condition and treat my hair I used Shea Moisture’s Curl Enhancing Smoothie which is definitely one of my holy grail hair products.

I tried to record how my hair looked … and slightly failed (lol)

then my friend came and took a picture of the back of my hair for me

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So yay 🙂 ❤IMG_1922


This is pretty much the result of my hair. I love it but like I said I won’t be leaving this in for too long because I have something planned for this bad boy sometime next week but when boredom strikes, I have to oblige. ❤

xoxo Cielo .