How To Get Your Life When You Feel Lost

I’m been away from my blogging safe haven for a while and during that time I had a breakdown, an epiphany, felt lost and confused .. and ultimately got back up and began to re-find myself.

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I. Am. Still. Trying. To. Figure. It. Out.

Everyday is a challenge.

No, seriously.

A multitude of things has happened during my time away from my blogging safe haven. I am finishing up the final touches of redecorating my room. My heart was broken. I booked a vacation rental to Costa Rica for my 23rd birthday. My heart was broken again lol. I lost my voice. I stopped writing. I began to feel very uninspired. I re-found my voice. I wrote. A lot. I realigned my goals. My laptop broke – which ultimately stopped me from blogging to you all about all the things that I’ve been dealing with. I got a new laptop. I started to revisit the world of dating -yass honey! I started my natural body butters. I’ve been learning and experimenting with new jewelry designs and finding ways to better myself and my craft. I tried being vegan for a week. I realized that I can only be vegan for a week and the pescatarian lifestyle is for me lol. I also realized that my working environment isn’t one that makes me happy. Realized that a part of the reason that it is so hard to steadily be happy and journey on towards peace is because I am surrounded by more negative things, people and places than I thought. I realized that I need to separate myself from those things now more than ever for the sake of my mental health, clarity and continuous path to self love. Oh, I need a new job guys. This is FACTS. I’m actively looking. However, I also realized that my true goal is to work for myself. Aside from that, I also had to remind myself that even during my times of doubt and frustration that I am an extraordinary, exceptional, brilliant and beautiful human being. So for the time I was away ….. I laughed, I cried, I learned … and realized that I am a confused, beautiful but … seriously a confused mess and I need to get my life.

Yes, you read that long ass paragraph only for it to end with “I’m confused”. I am lost in translation. Swept up in thoughts of how to make myself a better person than I was yesterday and caught between making those around me happy, helping out where I can and perfecting my craft and writing and re-finding my voice and just wanting some plain old love and attention!

If the title has compelled you to read this then you’re probably waiting for the part where I give a list of proper advice about how to get ya life! Listen, this is one time where I am just as lost as you. No proper advice over here just the beginning phases of life getting that I went through, lol.


During my time away I learned that the best way to start is to identify the problem. The source of stress. Source of sadness, hindrance, confusion etc. For me, that was identifying that I felt stuck, stagnant and complacent.

Then I stopped in my tracks and thought about why I felt this way. I’ve been out of college for over a year now. I don’t have a job in my field. I gave up a year of my life to help out someone who doesn’t seem to appreciate it. My business has been open for a year and I feel like it should be bigger than it is (while I do know these things take patience, time, hard work and dedication). A relationship that I thought was going to flourish in every sense of the word … failed. I couldn’t hold on to money. Felt like important people in my life weren’t matching the effort in which I give them (this still holds true but this is for another post lol). Oh man, and so much more.

I cried. Then I cried some more. I let out a rage of emotions.

Then I snapped out of it.

If you are a frequent reader of my blog, it won’t surprise you that I then made a list.

I made a list of goals. Then I prioritized them. Then I made a list of how to accomplish them. I made a list of my feelings. Then I made a list of how to work through each one.

I consoled myself. Because at 2 a.m when you feel like the world is crashing down on you and there’s no one you can call .. you’re all you have. And even when you feel like you deserve more than that or you don’t feel like that’s not enough … YOU HAVE TO BE ENOUGH FOR YOU. No matter what.

I revisited yoga and different breathing practices. Because during this time, I stopped and I could feel the tension rising within me.

I prayed. I’m not religious in any sense of the word but I believe in a higher power and I find solace in talking to that being.

I woke up one morning and I decided that I could no longer let my feelings of complacency stop me from being motivated and taking charge of my life.

I woke up that same morning grateful that I have been given another chance to make things right & to be my best self.

I applied to jobs. I read a little. Put on a face mask. Laughed. Facetimed bae and told myself that the following days would be different.

I spoke my goals into existence and I have been doing it since that morning.

Then I smiled because the only place to go from here is up. There will be a few more bad patches along the way -I know. There will be more times, when I’m feeling less grateful and less blissful, more discouraged, more frustrated but I know that I will overcome it. As I stated before, I am an extraordinary, beautiful, intelligent, confused mess and I realized if it wasn’t so, I wouldn’t be me and I couldn’t and wouldn’t have it any other way.

& CHECK .. there you have it, in the midst of all things confusing, ya girl has begun to get her life.

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Along My Spiritual Journey: The Beginning

A few months before my 21st birthday I think I had an epiphany. I kind of fell … into myself. Let me explain.

I have always felt like the odd one out. Externally, I was happy and just like everyone else. Internally, I knew I was different. I pretended to enjoy the same things that everyone else did. I pretended that my beliefs were the same as theirs. I pretended that I cared about the same things. I knew I didn’t but externally it made me fit right in. So much so, that in high school it became me … or rather I became it. I became the girl that cared about drama. I became the girl that was hard on the exterior. I became the girl that didn’t take any shit. I became the beauty queen that everyone desired to be. The alpha female. Externally.

Internally, I was fighting. With myself. With what others would think of me. You see, when I was living in Boston .. although I pretended and I kind of fit, I never felt comfortable. It never felt like home. But when I moved back to New York, my pretending got me accepted. The boy I liked, liked me back. I mean he worshiped the ground I walked on. I made friends instantly .. and we clicked just the same. My home life wasn’t the best (I resented my family a lot because they continued their life in New York while I had to start over in another state … but that’s another story lol) but I was healthy and happy .. externally.

Internally, I still felt different. Awkward. Always trying to find the right thing to say. Although everyone thought I had it all figured out. So I went along with it. Up until the last day of high school. Good riddens, except for a few close friends I left high school and my pretend games behind. Or so I thought.

When I got to college, I was ecstatic. I felt like a new chapter had begun. Until one piece of high school followed me to college. She didn’t know me all too well, but we had the same group of friends .. and she felt safe, so we clung to each other. I could tell that she was playing a pretend game too, although we never spoke about it. Together along with some other friends we met, we became the cool freshmans. But we, us two stood out. For different reasons, and this story isn’t about her sooooo yea lol. I stood out for those same reason as I did in high school. I became one of the popular girls. In my group, I was considered the outspoken one, the one that people went to, the one that everyone wanted but couldn’t get, the one that couldn’t be figured out but had the answers, the plans. I was once again an alpha female.

I won’t lie. While in college, I did enjoy my pretend game. I felt on top of the world. And I had my group of best friends that I could turn to. To release the real me … at a bare minimum. Until a bare minimum with 5 or 6 girls wasn’t enough. I got tired of being sheltered. Sheltering myself and who I really was. I began to hate myself again. The fight and anger brewing inside of my yet again. External vs internal. Who I want to be vs Who I am. Ah.

The transition from sophomore year to junior year was the hardest and most fulfilling. Don’t worry, I’ll tell you why. Lol.

Sophomore year, I lost a good friend (yes, it was the girl from the previous paragraph). See, her game of pretending ended .. quite abruptly. Then she transferred schools. But, like I said this story isn’t about her lol. After losing her, I began to reevaluate things that were important to me. Over time, my views on things began to change. And I voiced them. I no longer stated what people wanted to hear. I stated what was from my heart .. as cheesy as that sounds. Buttttttttttt, something was still, I don’t know .. blocking me? Maybe it was me blocking me because I was so used to hiding the bitter parts of myself.

Well anyways, I continue to struggle internally and I think externally it began to show. I distanced myself from my loved ones, buried my head in books and work and went on a small hiatus. Then things went left. On my haitus, I fell off. I didn’t care about anything and fell into a spell of depression. And I mean things really did go LEFT. Everything that could go wrong .. was going wrong. Love life – wrong. Friendships – wrong. Work – I got fired so yea wrong. School – WRONG.

This is going to sound so cheesy and cliche and every word that is synonymous with cliche … but then I had a terrible hair mishap. Bare with me readers, lol. This hair mishap resulted in me having to cut my hair (something that I wanted to do for a while but was too afraid to do). Let. Me. Tell. You. I had never felt so free. The day I cut my hair was the day I got fired. I had cried on the way to my moms friends apartment but when I got there I was at ease. I guess I knew a change was coming lol. I told everyone that I got fired and they gasped. I remember giggling and although I felt terrible, saying “It’s okay, everything happens for a reason”. He told me to prepare myself and I sat in this little chair while he gathered his equipment. I vividly remember the buzzing sound as he turned the clippers on. I was scared as hell! And as he took this razor to my head, I began to shed so many fucking tears it was unbelievable. I just cried. It felt so good. Like years and years of fake, bullshit, sucky moments were being washed away. Oh my goodness. I remember when he was done, I let out this huge sigh, I wiped my eyes and he gave me a mirror. I was afraid to look, but everyone in the house was cheering me on and making me feel so pretty and awesome lol. I looked in the mirror, smiled and cried all over again because I truly did feel free in that very moment

That exact moment was when I think I had the epiphany.

The next week at school, listen honey… I slayed. It was the last week of junior year but I still felt on top of the world. I carried that same attitude through summer vacation and back again into my senior year. Oh man, senior year (once again, that’s another story lol).

The beginning of senior year was met with so much positive vibes and good energy. The start of my spiritual journey had begun. I said what I wanted. Dressed the way I wanted. Felt the way I wanted and without apologizes.
This time around, I was still outspoken but in the most genuine and authentic way. Like, I am cheesing as I write this. That is how amazing it felt. I was still a reliable source for people, I was still dependable, tactful, charming and beautiful and people saw that. I was still an alpha female, but in a more positive and luminescent way. As a matter of fact more people gravitated towards me and the energy that I gave off. Was I still guarded? Of course. It was just the beginning. But opening up myself to receive the energy of other amazing and positive people was something I had never felt before and it was invigorating. I was satisfied externally and internally for the first time in what felt like forever.

I remember a friend of mine, Brian pulled me aside and he said to me “I see a change in you from the girl you were when I first met you and the woman you are now. I love it. Keep getting better. I see you, Sky”. I wonder if he remembers that. Lol. That comment was one of the best compliments I had ever received in my life .. even to this day. It just let me know that all along, I could have been myself .. and been happy being myself and the right people would have gravitated towards me from the beginning.

But everything happens for a reason.

I know that.

As a matter of fact, I am grateful it didn’t happen from the beginning because I wouldn’t have learned to love myself the way I do now. I wouldn’t have grown. Every hardship that I have overcome has helped shape me into a better person.


Making this this blog, has been about continuing to open myself up, in hopes to inspire at least one person. Or to help at least one person. Or to let at least one person know that they are not alone … and it is okay to be weird lol. With that being said, I hope that you guys enjoyed this post – a little more intimate side of me and who I am. Like the title says, this was just the beginning so stay tuned for part two. ❤

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Dear Black Women …

There’s this thing women do … specifically black women. I hate it.

We live in a world where the black woman is constantly mistreated. We are unheard. Abused. Considered the low of the low. And when we speak out about the injustices that we face, we are deemed angry, aggressive, unruly and (my favorite) ghetto/ratchet .. when really we are just indignant and tired.

That’s why I hate it.

I HATE when women – women of color, my sisters talk down to and judge other sisters. It does something to me. Pisses me off on a whole other level.

I was tempted to talk about this at this particular moment for two reasons:

  1. Sometime last week, a young idiot on twitter decided to post this picture along with a caption that read “Ladies, line up in order from Chill to Petty”. To which he received many wonderful RT’s that included things like ” Line up in order from independent to child supportive” and “Line up in order from highest to lowest GPA” among others.image
    All I could think at that moment was ‘wow’. A black man sending out that tweet. I mean, it’s sad to say but sometimes it doesn’t seem that the black man is on our side. Then I had to change my point of view and I narrowed it down to age and ignorance because well he is young and clearly has much growing up to do.
    So what does that have to do with us, black women?

    Well, I took to FB and I was insanely close to calling out (some) black men for their lack of respect and for demeaning black woman  for the exact thing that they praise white women for … until I saw a dark skinned woman repost the picture. Instead of firing rage at the young man that posted this disgusting picture and calling black woman to stand together, her comment was something along the lines of “All light skinned women think they’re better when really they are just submissive and uneducated because they don’t need to be. They get a pass because of their skin color and they don’t know the ‘real’ struggle of being a black woman”.
    I was truly amazed. I was even more amazed as I saw the comments under the post.
    I mean, dark skinned woman, light skinned, brown skinned, yellow, purple and blue … all these woman were angry with each other and I was insanely confused and entirely appalled.

  2. After seeing that post, I remembered a conversation I had with someone (let’s call her Erica). Erica, my younger brother and myself were having a conversation about my brothers ‘relationships’. My younger brother stated that he would never date a dark skinned woman, to which I looked at him and his dark skin, thought about his mother and her dark skin and asked if he was stupid before asking him why not. He stated that he just didn’t want anyone dark. As I tried to explain to his young, ignorant, 16 year old mind how ridiculous he sounded spewing self hate, Erica stated that she defended my brother. She continued on to say that her son could never bring someone that is “too dark” home and I had to look at her like she was insane.

    The hate that we black woman share for one another is disgusting. (SOME) Light skin women denying their blackness and feeling as though they are better than others. (SOME) Dark skin women hating light skin women who are on their side and denying them the right to their blackness. And it’s more than just the fight between skin tones. Sometimes, I’ll see black women nit picking at anything that her sister does. “Natural vs Perms”, “Casual Dressing vs Mini Skirts”, “Hoes vs Wife Material”. I mean it’s repulsive. To hear my sisters, black women constantly belittle and judge each other. Especially when we have so much working against us.

    It’s clear that I am a ‘high yellow’ light skin chick. I get that. I also get that because of colorism in our culture sometimes I am ‘favored’ more than my darker skin sisters. But, I try to change that. For this present, and the future. I try to empower all woman of color because at the end of the day my fight is your fight and your fight is mine. We all have different experiences being a black woman but that doesn’t mean anyone’s story is inferior to anyone elses. How can we expect to overcome the Donald Trumps in the world if we keep holding ourselves back. There’s this constant battle between who is better than who and all I keep wondering is why the hell can’t we all be great. Praise our strengths and where we come from, acknowledge our faults and learn from them while banding together to become stronger than any of our persecutors ever imagined.

    We are bigger than the fight that was created for us. We are bigger than this systematic oppression they have laid in front of our faces. It was said over 300 years ago that the way to keep the black race down was to create a division within. That is was colorism is. Pinning us against one another. And in a time where we have white women preaching feminism that doesn’t account for us, in a time where non black women want to be black and steal our culture without knowing our struggles and giving us credit, in a time where a white mans only use for a black woman is to sexualize and fetishize us, in a time where many black men don’t appreciate us, I challenge you to uplift your sister and not help in holding her back.

    We all have to do better. ❤

    So, what I’m trying to say is … who gonna have our backs if we don’t have it?

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Before You Love Them | Love Yourself

Love is a feeling – truth. You can experience love by simply loving yourself – truth. You can also experience love by loving someone else – truth. Some people feel unfulfilled unless they find love from a significant other or family member or friend – truth.
However, the truth is also that we don’t need the love of another to experience true love but many fail to realize that.

I mean at one point, I failed to realize that. For the most part, my friends and I have what many would call “daddy issues”. We would talk about how our fathers continuously disappointed us and weren’t really there for us growing up as we would have liked. Although none of us ever said it, the feeling that penetrated the room as we spoke of our fathers was heavy. We were sad, hurt and feeling unworthy of love. And that’s just an example, it could be with any family member or loved one.

I can even recall so many instances that my friends and I would sit in a circle discussing the traits that we would want in a significant other and wondering WHEN that person was going to just walk right into our path. We would discuss the many ways that we would show our love and talk about how different this one would be from the last. Then, we would be so hard on ourselves if a ‘situationship’ didn’t work out and really self doubt our love for ourselves and contemplate what traits we needed to fix in order to hold the attention of a potential.

We often wondered why ___ didn’t love us or ____ wasn’t attracted to us or what it was that we did wrong.  When in reality the only trait we needed to fix was that we weren’t falling in love with ourselves first, but trying to find love outside of ourselves.

I am firm believer that you can not help anyone, can not love anyone (truly love), can not inspire anyone etc until you do these things for yourself (or at least try).

As I am on this journey to self love and happiness and tranquility and all things positive, I have had setbacks Self-Lovewith love – especially the love I have for myself. So I concocted a list of ways to begin the process of falling in love with yourself. Now keep in mind that I am a work in progress and these have been working for me – but we all are different. I suggest you all give this list a try and add on anything (positive) that will work for you.

1. Live In Your Truth

For a LONG time I was afraid of being me. In turn I couldn’t fully grasp the idea of loving myself because I was being a superficial version of myself. I tried to be the person I thought my family wanted, the person that my ‘friends’ would want to be a around and the person that I thought was deserving of a partner.

Then I realized that I am a fierce, beautiful, self proclaimed weird girl, hippie chick, pro-melanin, flower child, Rasta enthusiast, artist, culture lover, natural haired, light skinned, brown eyes, spiritual being, (and much more) woman. That is my truth and I decided to live in it. And if the people in my life don’t accept that or want that or understand that truth .. that’s their problem, not mine.

Now your truth doesn’t have to be ANYTHING like mine. You just have to accept it and take pride in it -whatever it is and you are already going down the right path.


2. Don’t Lose Yourself For Someone Else

Now I’m not saying compromise isn’t necessary with ANYONE that you love (partner, family, friends), because it is – but when you start to compromise your self love and things that you truly believe in, maybe it’s time to take a step back and really look at the situation you are in. Don’t lose yourself trying to love someone else.


3. Write As Many Lists As Needed

Now this may just be my thing .. but writing lists makes me feel like I have my life sorted out – or like I’m getting there.

I love writing lists about every and anything. As you guys can see I wrote a list about 51 things that make me happy. Just the same, I wrote a list about things that make me sad in hopes of changing those things or eliminating those things from my life.

I wrote a list about places that I would love to travel to. A list about things that I need to change in my physical and spiritual life. Then I jot down ways to accomplish these things. And as I do, I feel empowered, one with my emotions, I have a sense of self and I feel like I’m taking steps to fully fall in love with myself.


4. Take The Time To Be Alone … And Enjoy It

This may be what I struggle with most. Sometimes, I’m alone and I’m fine. Sometimes, I’m alone and I feel lonely and I HATE it.I’m trying to cut that out.

I think that whenever we are alone, we need to appreciate that. Enjoy that time to just be. Write. Think (not too much lol). Read. Blog. Youtube. Watch Tv. Do Yoga. Exercise. Write a list lol. Do anything – just appreciate that time.

Also take yourself on a date. Don’t worry, I’m working up the courage to take myself out, too.


5. Find What Inspires You

Find the key, your muse, your inspiration and let that help to lift you up.

What’s mine?
Love. Positivity. Seeing my end goal of happiness and self love and success in the horizon. Sometimes, I breathe, relax, cry a little and believe in and feel my goals and dreams coming to life. It is in that moment that I feel ultimate peace.


6. Spend Time With People Who Bring Light Into Your Life

Sometimes being alone is good. Sometimes being around loved ones is better. Spend time with people who TRULY get you and bring happiness, calmness, liveliness and just beautiful luminescent light into your life.


7. Understand Your Worth

You are worth the love you give to yourself. You are worth living in your truth. You are worth writing down as many lists as you need. You are worth having your alone time. You are worth feeling inspired. You are worth being around loved ones. You are worth EVERYTHING that YOU BELIEVE you are worth.

So start believing that you are worth it.

Stop accepting positive things into your life by saying “it’s just luck” or “omg I can’t believe that happened to me”. Believe it, it’s more than luck because YOU ARE WORTH IT. We all are.


8. Look In The Mirror … Talk To Yourself

Now it might sound crazy …. but it’s not. Sometimes when I’m feeling down and nothing else is working, I walk over to my mirror. I stare at myself .. for a while, most of the times tears streaming down my face and I give myself a pep talk.

If I have to yell at myself, then I do.”Get it together! You are better than this.”

If I need to some positive words, then I give them. “You got this.”

If I need to remind myself not to get so worked up, I remind. “Relax, breathe.”

If I need a hug, I wrap my arms around my waist and I give it.

I look into that mirror and I give myself whatever I need because when everything else is gone, when everyone else returns to their own life … all you have is you.

And that has got to be enough. The love you have for yourself .. it has to be enough.

So love yourself first.

 

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Uplifting Quotes To Brighten Your Day … & Mine

In a time like this I need some positive words to surround me and I know that I’m not alone. Whether it be a person, a thing or situation, we all have times that we just need to be surrounded by positivity and good vibes. So I wanted to give you guys that and truthfully I need to give myself that.

Here are some of my favorite uplifting quotes.

“Without struggle there is no progress.” Image result for without struggle there is no progressThe real quote by Frederick Douglass reads “If there is no struggle there is no progress” but I tend to prefer the modified version. During my times of self doubt and when I am struggling to better myself or succeed at something I try my hardest to remember this quote. This is a quote that has ALWAYS helped me push through and persevere during difficult times.

“If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail.”This quote is by one of my favorite psychologist, Abraham Maslow. So, read it. Read it again. Let in sink in.  When I first read this quote, I was taken aback. I literally stared in awe for a few minutes because it is so true. If we continue to see everything with a one sided mind or from our own perspective, we will never be able to know any other solution. Every problem we come across, we will try to solve the same way. Every disagreement, every misunderstanding .. everything! And that is no way to operate. Every situation is different. Every person is different. You have to be able to at least attempt to understand things in a different light. You have to be able to take a step back and try different tactics to handle different scenarios and that is something I had to learn. Once I learned the meaning of this quote, it helped me with future problems .. and it still helps me.

“If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life” and “A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if he is to be ultimately at peace with himself”. I combined these two because they essentially mean the same thing but I love both of these quotes and couldn’t pick one. What I get from these quotes is – do what makes you happy and nothing less .. or you will be unhappy! Work to your highest and best ability and don’t give up. Even if there’s turbulence along the way. Even if you have nay sayers surrounding you. Even if you feel like your best isn’t enough. Even if self doubt is getting the best of you. Keep going, keep trying and don’t give up. It is better to try and fail than to not try at all (another favorite quote of mine lol) because in you trying you are reaching the goal you were meant to. So many times I see people go into professions or do things that they don’t necessarily want to do because they are thinking about the people around them or money but in the end they turn out to be so unfulfilled and not at peace. We have to come to the conclusion that we must do what makes us happy. We have to do it for ourselves and no one else. We must live to our greatest potential and travel along that path to self love and happiness and then we will attain peace <3.

“If I were dropped out of a plane into the ocean and told the nearest land was a thousand miles away, I’d still swim. And I’d despise the one who gave up.” This is another Abraham Maslow quote and I promise the last one! Lol. I adore this quote. You have to keep trying. No matter what. No matter how difficult the task. It’s that simple. That’s it.

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” I love this quote because it’s just saying that no matter where life may take you, you have to learn to go with it and change when needed so that you meet whatever goal you have set for yourself. Throughout life, whatever goal you are pushing for, the path to that goal will very rarely go the way you expect it. There will be ups and downs, right turns and wrong ones but you have to gain the mindset that these things -everything really- happens for a reason. And that reason is to make you a better person and after facing those obstacles, reaching that goal will only be more fulfilling!

“No weapon formed against you shall prosper and every tongue that rises against you in judgement shall be condemned.” I couldn’t NOT include a bible quote and to be honest this might be my favorite on this list. There was a time in my life (at a young age) that I was going through so much. One day, I was talking to my aunt over the phone and I literally broke down. She consoled me, talked to me so calm and started reading the bible. Now I am not religious (I do believe in God though) but something about the way she spoke to me helped. Before we got off the phone she told me to write something down. I got a pen and paper and she recited those words to me. Then she told me to put it on the door of my room and every night before I went to bed and every morning before I left the house to say these words. I don’t know if she even remembers that but even now before I leave the house I say those words in my head. No weapon that forms against you will prosper. Those weapons will form but if you keep your faith, work hard and stay positive they won’t prosper – they can’t. And every person that judges you or your situation can’t prosper. So stay positive and focus on that goal. Strive to achieve it and you will.

So these are some of my favorite uplifting quotes. If you are feeling down for whatever reason, I hope this helped you. ❤

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51 Things That Make Me Happy !

The past few weeks have been very trying. In terms of being positive and continuing on my journey to happiness and self love, I have instead taken a pit stop at restlessness, sadness and self doubt. It isn’t fun. At. ALL.

I decided that I need to resume my journey for the sake of my happiness and my mental health. Pit stop – OVER. With that being said, I was skimming through some blogs and a post entitled “50 things that make me happy” leaped right into my lap. I automatically thought …. I have to do this!

So, I grabbed a nice big cup of ginger tea (one of my favorites), wrapped myself in my big fluffy comforter and started on my list. I hope you guys enjoy.

51 Things That Make Me Happy

  1. People who smell good
  2. Puppies
  3. People in love
  4. Romantic movies
  5. Walking to my destination
  6. Traveling
  7. Taking a shower .. especially after a longgggg day
  8. Pillows .. especially if they smell nice lol
  9. When I feel like people understand me
  10. Making people happy
  11. Writing
  12. People who don’t give a damn about what others think
  13. Bob Marley ❤
  14. When my hair does what I want it to do
  15. When I look as cute in pictures as I look in person
  16. When I have accomplished a goal after procrastinating forever
  17. Reading
  18. Learning new things
  19. Culture
  20. Art
  21. Music
  22. Positive people
  23. Good food .. I mean seriously. I should’ve written this first
  24. Peeing after holding it for a really long time
  25. Time to myself
  26. Time with my loved ones
  27. The sound of rain
  28. Parks
  29. Picnics .. In Parks
  30. Getting things in the mail
  31. Feeling emotionally stable
  32. Being productive
  33. Feeling wanted
  34. Eating healthy .. because I feel healthy
  35. Pools!
  36. Dipping my head under water
  37. When I am feeling confident and sexy
  38. Smelling clothes after they come out of the dryer .. clearly I have an obsession with smells!
  39. Being the person of choice that my loved ones come to during their times of need
  40. When my loved ones are there for me during my times of need
  41. Milkshakes
  42. Ratchet activities – at a minimum. lol
  43. Getting PAID
  44. When I let go of and overcome my sadness, anger and/or fear/s
  45. Omg, when people play in my hair. Not just anyone lol but yea
  46. Reconnecting with old friends
  47. Love
  48. A positive support system
  49. Seeing people live in their truth and well as living in my truth
  50. Seeing beautiful successful people
  51. Feeling free

If you aren’t feeling like yourself or just aren’t feeling up to it at the moment .. I really suggest you make your own list. Honestly, I feel a little better. I know it’s going to take more than a list to pull me out of this ditch (woahhh, barss did yall see that?, lol) buuttttt, it’s just the beginning and it is a step in the right and positive direction ❤ .

I hope you all enjoyed this post and I hope you all make your own list of things that make you happy.

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Surprise!

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So, sometime last week I was invited to a surprise gathering for a friend of mine. One of my new years resolutions for 2016 has been to start going more – so when I was invited I immediately headed to my closet and called two of my best friends to tag along. So without going into a thousand details, here is my outfit from that night!

Necklace| Boohoo
Dress| Missguided
Clutch| Missguided
Platform Ankle Shoes| H&M
Lippie| Colourpop Ultra Matte – Guess

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xoxo Cielo.